Ever feel like getting to a kid’s feelings is like breaking through a stone wall?
Spoiler alert: it’s called the “Heart Wall,” and today, we’re reaching in softly.
This week we’re diving deep into understanding the elusive “Heart Wall” – a specific term that was coined by Dr. Bradley Nelson, creator of The Emotion Code. Essentially, it simply means: An emotional/energetic barrier formed around your heart for protection from life’s “hard stuff.”
For many kids, this barrier stems from past trauma or emotional overload, leading them to shut down and struggle with recognizing their own feelings.
Trust me—I’ve been there.
In my own childhood, my emotions felt locked behind a fortress, too daunting to penetrate.
The beauty of this approach?
We start with thoughts.
If a child can express something—anything—from sadness to hunger—great!
But before that, you might need to ask the golden question:
“What’s going on for you?”
That simple inquiry can ease open the toughest heart walls, because let’s face it, everyone wants to feel seen and heard.
Remember: as adults, we wield incredible energetic influence, so let’s swap out unhelpful labels for nurturing words and vibes.
Reversal is the name of the game; instead of labeling a child as “troubled,” let’s plant the seed that they’re “capable.”
By shifting the energy, we’re not just helping kids feel better; we’re paving the way for genuinely impactful connections.
Ready to melt the pain away?
Let’s go!
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This Week’s TurnAround is: You Have a Heart Wall? Let’s Take It Easy!
So, you’ve got a kid who’s on the emotional defense, and you’re wondering how to crack that code.
Enter the infamous “Heart Wall”!
It’s like a barrier made of energetic and emotional bricks, built from past trauma and feelings too heavy to carry.
I get it—growing up, my emotions were like a secret club: “No feelings allowed!”
But let’s flip the script!
Instead of just asking “What’s wrong?” which feels like pulling teeth, consider the magical phrase:
“What’s going on for you that … ?”
Trust me, it’ll work wonders!
You see, kids are like sponges—they absorb everything! Instead of labeling them as “troubled,” why not plant seeds of positivity?
Tell them they’re “capable” or “unique.”
It’s a simple twist that can work like a charm.
Remember, as the adult in the room, you have the power to set the tone.
So, let’s channel our inner gentle ninjas and take down those heart walls with humor and heart.
Open that conversation, crack a smile, and watch as those tough emotions start to flow!
Ready?
Let’s get to work and have some fun while we’re at it!
Let’s take it easy with those heart walls—laughter and love are your tools!
Reaching out …
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