Energy First, Tools Second

There are those who rigidly believe that if we don’t use traditional tactics of force as in shame, humiliation, threats, exclusion, seclusion, corporal punishment etc., we will lose control – when the facts are, we’ve most likely already lost control.  

We already know that doing the same thing over and over again
is the definition of insanity. 

And yet, the number one mistake adults make is doubling down on what doesn’t work, never did work, and never will work to create mentally healthy, productive, soul-fulfilled children thriving in route to their adult years.

My hairstylist now uses my What, If, When Method with her children, and each time I come in for my monthly appointment, she shares another success story with me.

Here’s one that happened this past spring:

Unbeknownst to my hairstylist mom, her first grade son’s principal, who, one day last spring, marched into every classroom and announced that she was adopting a new “zero-tolerance” policy, and there would be absolutely no leniency given to any child misbehaving from now to the end of the school year.

One strike and you are out. Period. Done. Game over.

The next day, as she was dropping off her son at school, he wouldn’t get out of the car.  She could not get him to budge.  So she pulled the vehicle over out of the drop-off lane and used my What, If, When It Energy Hack on him.

She used my Miracle Regulator first (Energy First) then (Tool Second) peacefully asked, “What’s going on for you that you won’t get out of the car this morning?”

His first response, as he broke down and cried, was, “I can’t do it any more, I can’t do it any more, I just can’t do it any more.”

She asks, “What can’t you do anymore?”

He said, “I can’t behave myself every day in class.  I just can’t do it.”

She asks, “What happened that you think this?”

He then shared that the school’s principal had visited his classroom the day before and informed them that, from now on, they could no longer make any behavioral miss-steps without facing immediate suspension from school.

My hairstylist mom parked the car, got out, and together with her son, went to get the facts from her son’s teacher (not the principal).

The teacher assured them both that she was not concerned about his behavior and would never kick him out of class.  That he would be safe to make miss-steps in her classroom.

So “what” was going on for this principal?

Was she just a mean, horrible human being?  No.  Her job was on the line, and her school was failing to meet standards. She panicked and dropped the authoritarian hammer, even though it doesn’t work to help kids accelerate in their learning – short or long term.

Now that we have the “what,” we can move on to solutions. 

Unfortunately for this principal, she was relieved of her duties soon thereafter. 

In my forty years of working with adult-child interactions, I’ve never seen doubling down on what doesn’t work, ever work!   

Let’s create a thriving educational environment together.

Want to do a deeper dive?  You have three options to get after it today:

1- DIY it: Do-It-Yourself without learning about the simple nuances or as I like to call it, “Fly by the seat of your pants.”

2- Micro-Dose it: Dip your toe in the water with my What, If, When Method.  Check out my 3:38 video. I think you’ll be verrrrrryyyyy innnnterested in something that works in 30 seconds or less more often than not.

3- MasterClass it (includes my What, If, When Method and the Miracle Regulator):

My What, If, When Method is included in
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Together, we can create a more harmonious and supportive learning environment for our students.

It’s time to prioritize relationship-building and mutual understanding in your classroom.

Join us today and revolutionize your teaching approach.

Let’s build communities that are truly welcoming, enriching, safe, fun, and academically accelerating. You won’t regret looking into my unconventional approach. You can trust my forty years of research, application, and success with this!

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