Turnaround Intense Exchanges With Restorative, Collaborative Outcomes: Expert Reveals Insider Secrets To Diffuse The Driving Force Behind Bullying Behaviors (Without Losing Your Cool, Being Humiliated, Or Seen As Incompetent; Suffering A Loss Of Credibility, Respect, And Regard!)
The following is a message for every any person who is afraid to lose credibility because of mishandling confrontational situations in front of others, who needs to hold firm to a peaceful, measured response AND WHO can’t give into the temptation to “let them have it” in order to “teach them a lesson!”
Re: Diffusing Bully Behavior
Hi, I’m Mary Reynolds and I am an author and consultant who has literally helped tens of thousands of people learn how to turn around intense people and situations in 30 seconds or less.
I believe I know some things about you and your current situation…
I believe you are here because you are an inclusion-oriented leader who dreams of becoming an effective leader of change.
Currently, your primary focus is on learning the most empowering ways to turnaround intense exchanges with restorative, collaborative outcomes.
Ultimately, you really want to advance to higher levels of leadership responsibilities and remuneration while making a positive, self-sustaining difference.
Right this minute, you would be ecstatic if you could lead by example how best to turn around emotional upsets and focus on solutions.
Unfortunately, you still need to figure out how to hold your energy and power with deliberately hurtful, unfiltered personalities.
You are also really frustrated by the fact that walking on eggshells and acquiescing doesn’t keep people from using bullying tactics to take over.
Plus, you still needs the answer to this question before you can move forward: “How to remain calm, cool and collected when on the receiving end of passive/aggressive insults.“
You are also still hung up on the idea that compassion weakens your long-term impact when you should be out bullying the bully to teach them a lesson.
In fact, when it comes to turnaround intense exchanges with restorative, collaborative outcomes, you are convinced that belligerent, condescending, oppositional, entitled, unfiltered, know-it-alls actually want you to FAIL.
When all is said and done, you just want to seamlessly turnaround even the most formidable personality with grace.
I would invite you to check out my Self-Paced Online Course, Victim No More: Diffusing Bully Behavior (Campus Wide), so you can elegantly diffuse any and all bully behavior without losing your cool, being humiliated or seen as incompetent and suffering a loss of credibility, respect, and regard.
But before we get into that, let me share a quick story with you…
There I was, always successful, powerful and strong in my professional life …
BUT when it came to the men in my personal life, I collapsed into powerlessness.
While trying to settle into my second marriage, my pattern for responding to his inflammatory remarks was becoming magnified.
He’d say something inconsiderate, de-energizing, unfiltered and unnecessary, and my ire would get triggered and I’d get angry and fight back fiercely.
Then later, I’d back down and acquiesce until it all happened again.
The thing is, at the time I had never dealt with how my parents had treated me verbally, emotionally and attitudinally …
The big problem was that my second husband had also been verbally abused as a child and that had become his default button with me and my son.
That meant expending tons of energy fighting back as a way to get him to see the error of his unskillful ways, which left us both exhausted and ready to leave our new marriage.
Then, as if by chance, something amazing happened …
One day, out-of-the blue, a light bulb went on in my mind and I remembered what I did with my at-risk kids.
So, instead of letting my ire win, I calmly asked him “What was going on for him that he was being so combative toward me in that moment?”
He thought for a moment, reached for it in his heart, and his answer touched my heart.
Instantly it became crystal clear to me how to get to the heart of adult problematic behavior by starting with “What” not “Why“ because I saw I’d never have to fight him back ever again as a (completely ineffective) way to get him to treat me with kindness, respect and regard …
The key to this puzzling behavior was to start bridging what I knew worked with at-risk kids over to my husband.
So, I started to stop myself the second I’d feel outraged by something he was saying or doing, remembering that my plan was to compassionately ask “What” not “Why“ but we didn’t stop there.
I then felt myself relax and feel more empowered while I waited for his answers to come.
His answers were profound and life changing for us both.
After that, I also decided to use my “What” questions with the distracting adults in my audiences who were belligerent, condescending, oppositional, entitled, unfiltered, know-it-alls, instead of getting into a debate with them.
Their heartfelt answers were palpable!
Bottom line:
We’re all just little kids in big bodies after all so I decided to start asking compassionate “What” questions like I always did with kids!
In the end we were able to put a STOP to bully behaviors every single time with my compassionate WIW “What If When” line of questioning.
If necessary, I’d followed with a “knock-your-socks-off” ONE-LINER guaranteed to stop them in their tracks, point blank, yet feeling like they were heard and understood.
Building on that success, we decided to create a Macro-Dose Online Course that teaches how to self- and co-regulate to remain calm, cool and collected when things are going sideways.
We call it “Victim No More: Diffusing Bully Behavior”
And that’s why I’m so excited to share this with you so you can get these types of results too!
Introducing… “Victim No More: Diffusing Bully Behavior“ for Leaders Building a Better Way
What brings you to this course?
Rich from Michigan: What brings me to this course is that through Mary’s introductory training I’ve realized, “I’m the bigger bully!“
I’ve been having a lot of conflict in my life over the past two months in exactly what your description said about being the bigger bully.
I had a conflict with a bully boundary situation. Boundaries were not spelled out and the person breaking boundaries didn’t have a clear picture of boundaries because they weren’t provided. Because of this they became a bully about it, and I responded by becoming a bigger bully.
AND when I heard you explain that we try to out bully the bully I said, “Yes that’s me!”
So, this is personal. I want to use this to break my own behavior of having become the bigger bully.
I want to learn new ways of working with bully behaviors that I don’t become a bigger bully in the process!
LuAnn Barr writes: I want to share my experience with my husband, a middle school art teacher who faces escalating challenges with bullying and confrontational student behavior. The increasing pressure from administration and financial concerns feels, to us, like a form of bullying toward educators. To support him, I purchased The Power of Compassion. While he’s naturally compassionate, he struggles to cope with hostility, stemming from a childhood spent in a bullying environment.
As I reflected on my own life, I realized just how much I embody compassion. I’ve come to understand that my successes are deeply rooted in my ability to transform “me” into “we.” This realization sparked a desire to foster more compassion within my community by helping others learn effective communication and compassionate thinking.
I am eager to become a spokesperson for this training program and would love the opportunity to lead staff training initiatives. I believe I can set a minimal coaching fee to encourage affordability. With many years of experience in therapeutic massage, yoga, public speaking, and even hosting my own radio show, I feel comfortable connecting with people. I especially enjoy leading with a common purpose and fostering group focus. My passion for compassion-driven communication motivates me to promote a more empathetic community.
Watch a course summary!
Life is too short to walk on eggshells around anyone, anywhere.
Free your mind, heart and schedule from having to deal with bullish people.
Get FULL access to this Video Course’s Entire Library, so you have everything you need at your fingertips 24/7!
It’s imperative that you manage yourself in the moment. And you don’t do this trying to memorize pages and pages of politically correct phrases! Or scripts you will never ever remember in the heat of the moment.
You can think-on-your-feet with my tried-and-true technique that can influence the energy of the situation from extremes to moderate to restorative.
You will not be able to UNSEE what I have to show you through this lavishly illustrated, easy to implement, unconventional approach to diffusing bully behavior in 30 seconds or less more times than not!
Course INCLUDES Mary’s TOP Signature Diffusing Hacks …
Act Now And Get These Companion Bonuses …
4 Eye-Grabbing Full-Color Printables for your office, classroom, or home!
Being able to skillfully handle emotionally triggered individuals with confidence, grace and ease.
You get 4 modules with 13 session videos with unlimited access to all videos – because you have the course for life!
Each video is 12–20-minutes for you to watch or download to listen to on your smart device while on the go.
Binge watch or slow watch – at your pace – and at your place. The video course is yours for life – so you can conveniently fit it into your schedule.
The more you know the better it goes,
and the more peaceful your life becomes.
Everything to Gain Guarantee
Just in case you were wondering – if Victim No More: Diffusing Bully Behavior doesn’t help you nip bullying behaviors in the bud (snap them out of it) quickly, easily and – get this – compassionately! … if it doesn’t understand fully the Role of Your Attitudinal Energy that is in play and how you can adjust it quickly to diffuse any bullying behavior in 30 seconds or less … or if it fails to help you to step up and be strong without resorting to the “I’m the bigger bully” tactics that only work to keep things escalating to an even bigger, hard to come back from, explosion … then we’ll refund your money. No Questions Asked! All the risk is squarely on our shoulders. You have nothing to lose and all the success to gain with your Diffusing Bully Behavior results!
Victim No More is field-tested and backed by replicable evidence-based research.
Mary teaches the class through 13 – 12-20-minute segments Lavishly Illustrated Video presentation.
Again, this is NOT your typical “how to ‘come at’ the bullish individuals by being the bigger bully” prescriptive class.
We will be starting from the beginning: the
ENERGY of an attitude and how it can inflame and trigger hurtful actions and reactions.
This instructional information has an extensive, comprehensive scientific-based and has been field-tested with tens of thousands of people of all ages, circumstances and cultures.
The latest brain research explains what happens to a person’s ability to think and behave in the face of intense situations.
And I’m going to show you exactly what to “think” to come up over intense situations productively to bring about the greatest chance for a peaceful outcome!
Victim No More!
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