Dear Difference Maker,
I am a big fan of the TV show NCIS, and I love it when they are processing a crime scene and New Orleans’ NCIS Supervisory Special Agent, Scott Bakula, who plays Dwayne Pride, says “go learn stuff” to his team at the start of an investigation.
Maybe you are in a situation where you are avoiding another person’s resistance to something that you really want or think is necessary.
Maybe you’ve been afraid of rocking the boat with people because there might be some backlash. Maybe you are rocking the boat and actually driving people away.
Then maybe it’s time to go learn stuff you didn’t know you even wanted to know, like what personality style are you and why are you not getting what you really want with the people in your life.
Reaching out …
Go Learn Stuff!
Excerpt from Connecting with Colors: Synergize Your Life Self-Paced Online Course
Research indicates that in 80% of the cases where people are pink-slipped, downsized, or just plain fired —is not due to a lack of technological know-how or competence. It is because they are not able to deal with personal differences and emotional situations within the work environment.
I think you go around with the insane delusion that people like you!
—Woody Allen, Deconstructing Harry
Now, more than ever before, we need to figure out how to “get along.” The demands on our attention, energy and time are greater than ever before because of this techno age that we live in.
Productivity expectations increase as the technology speeds up our ability to get things out and make things happen. Instead of a project taking ten weeks to design, now they may be expected it to be accomplished in ten days!
There is nothing wrong with any of this, but it does demand that people communicate with each other in ways that achieve a mutual understanding, and that they find a way to commit and go forward, whether or not they agree in this given moment in time.
One common theme I see, as I work with teams in the corporate environment, is this belief that we all have to agree before there can be forward movement! One company, where I led extensive training seminars , has a motto that they use: Disagree and then Commit!
When I’ve asked if this works for them, the consensus is that it works… and it’s still difficult. We are human after all, and we all tend to be a bit stubborn about holding on to the notion that my way is the only way.
So what do we do about this?
Demystify compatibility! Compatibility, or the lack of it, is not such a mystery. Both rapport and tension are rather predictable, once you know what to look for.
What motivates People?
Communication breakdown comes from failing to understand other people. We don’ t listen to other people, and we try to talk a language that we expect people to understand, when in fact they are listening and speaking in another language, “their” language.
The Colors Connection
Your behavior is affected by the situations you’re in. Your social style is the result of many years of development. No personality style is better than any other, yet you enhance your relationship with others if you understand your motivations, strengths and weaknesses, and those of people around you.
Whether I’m working with families in bringing more harmony to their personal relationships or whether I am brought in to corporations to work on aligning Communication, Leadership and/or Team Synergism, the first thing we do is determine the Predominant Communication Styles of all participants, using my Connecting with Colors Personality Style Profile quiz.
This is where confusion, conflict and heated interactions begin. What we want to do is to not only learn about ourselves, but also start thinking about the style that is most difficult to deal with and communicate to.
In understanding what we personally value, how we think and integrate information, and how others are similar or differ, we can easily see the effect these things have on our interactions.
My Connecting with Color Personality Styles System is so incredibly SIMPLE TO NAVIGATE when you learn how to Dial-In whatever Color Style people are in during the time that you are reaching out to connect.
Instead of working so hard to control the people and situations of your life – step into this opportunity in your life to invest in taking a short amount of time to learn how to DIAL your way IN to effective and synergistic communication.
Make the time now to quickly and easily learn the 4 easy to remember Color Personality Style Descriptions, Secondary Colors Combos, the 7 Life Areas of Interest and the ONE Technique that will remedy any and all intense situations.
Reasons or Results?
You can go learn stuff by taking a quick test to find out what your Predominant Color Style is and how it’s impacting what you are trying to get across. But first I’d highly recommend that on your next break take the time to watch my F*R*E*E webinar by scrolling down mid-page.
I am confident that the stuff you’ll learn will help you feel better so you can do better with the people in your life.
Rather than focusing on what’s wrong with you, you will find out what your Color Style’s STRENGTHS are that you can be Dialing-In to get back in control.
And in case you are wondering what’s different about my Color Personality Styles, I’ve included a segment on “What’s NEW” that I know is going to explain so much for you to simplify and synergize every important relationship in your life…
Put an end to any and all upsetting relational dis-connects TODAY.
Click here and scroll down mid-page to watch my free webinar.
Is today the day you really grab a hold of your life and own it!?
To learn how you and your colleagues, friends and loved ones can all learn how to easily and effortlessly Dial In each other’s Color Styles to enjoy the very best relationships can offer go to: ConnectingWithColors.com and check out my Connecting With Colors: SYNERGIZE Every Relationship In Your Life Program.